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How To Get a Fresh Start in Life and Achieve Your Goals! as told by a foster child that made something out of nothing….

I frequently get messages from clients looking to book a salon appointment, when I tell them I had to shut down the doors of my dream, they first are disappointed … naturally and wonder where they will find such a fantastic hairdresser like the one and only Hairess Rita and secondly, as I am an open book, they want to know what happened. Sooooo, this blog goes out to all you curious clients / friends and I hope my true life story will bring some hope and courage to your life.

I exhale a deep breath of sadness. Yup, I choose to do it!
It felt just like when I was 15years old – thrown out of my foster home and hit the ground

running!
The pain of betrayal. The challenges of starting over and being homeless…again.
Only,  this time, at 34 years old, I decided to leave my home. The place where my husband of 6 years could no longer hide his demons / addiction. My only rule in life is to never lie to me. I will stand by you loyally but just don’t friggen lie!
I tried gluing back that china tea cup but once trust is broken, tea will always leak from the shattered foundation and you will get cut and burned until you have the courage to throw that shit out!
I left the marriage with no money, what ever was at the HeadQuaters – Salon Beauty Mark is what I kept, where I stayed at night and eventually, the place of broken dreams.

Looking back now, the advice I would of given myself would be “KINDNESS IN BUSINESS  DOESN’T PAY THE PILLS, GET YOUR HUSTLE ON!”
Aside from overworking myself and giving out way to many discounts, the root of the problem was my own demons from Foster Homes, they all came back to visit me after being betrayed- feelings of low self worth and negative self talk all came out to play. My confidence in decision making were shot to hell and somehow, I was truly alone.  Everyone in my life dispersal.

I stayed with my friend of 4 years, who was my graphic designer for the business / salon, for 7 month after shutting down the salon – which also turned out to be a disaster but I stuck it out until I could afford a living place of my own. I learned to slow down and let God do his work and not to mix business with my personal life.
Many other series of “bad luck” snowballed from one thing to another!

But I’m proud to say that PHASE 1 – EMERGENCY 101 is finally over! (16 months later!)
I have a great place to live in Toronto in Little Italy. Where I feel at home in a European environment. I have a job that doesn’t pay me nearly as much as I’m worth but its

the driving force to continue believing in my calling and dream! The reason I  write blogs after a 10hr shits and keeps the heart of Salon Beauty Mark beating!

 

Here are the key ingredients to the hairspray of starting a fresh new life stick:

  • only focus on improving 1% per day

  • Laugh! even if its fake, your mind doesn’t know the difference

  • write our your goals and have dates for them

  • DON’T FEEL ENTITLED TO ANYTHING!

Believe in your dream.
Plant that seed and water it, even if you think the plant is dead, keep on watering it !
I truly believe that if I, an orphaned foster child can make something out of nothing, well ….. so can you!

If you want it, go after it.

If on days you don’t want anything and would rather meet your creator, as I did many of times, just allow yourself to feel that pain, acknowledge your hurt and tears. We are all here for a purpose, I truly believe that.

There are to two choice in life: to be an entrepreneur or to work to make someone else’s dream a reality.
If your ok with being the employee and ok with  helping create someones dream, do it to your fullest potential and make sure you get paid well.
If you have to do a “J.O.B” to get back on  your feet and pay the bills, as I frustratingly am right now, well, hustle baby!
If God has put a dream in your heart, well, it is your duty to fulfill that dream!

Salon Beauty Mark looks forward to opening it doors again! Closer to its dream this time. Much stronger and vibrant!

Oceans of love and beauty,
Hairess Rita.

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Hairess Rita

THE BRAIN | THE BEAUTY | THE BOSS
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